How To Overcome Self-Sabotage: 3 Beliefs That Can Frustrate You

1094027_10153067503475463_777139257_oIt was a beautiful Saturday morning. I was enjoying a cup of coffee on the patio of a local coffee shop.  Right before our session, my client expressed his desire to feel balanced and motivated. We talked about ups and downs in the world of a business owner, a man who was going through a few personal challenges, a father who did his best to support his kids. In order to help him have breakthroughs I had to understand where he was in life at that moment and how he viewed himself. Basically, I had to read his life story to get a good picture.

During our 90 minutes coaching session, we have covered top 3 beliefs that could frustrate us, sabotage our goals and what he could do to overcome self-sabotage.

1. Lack of passion.

Sometimes when we are exhausted we have a belief that we are losing our passion, a sense of purpose and become unclear about our direction in life.  Just a few years ago, I have also lost my passion, but not because I was no longer interested in doing what I did. I was simply exhausted. I was not sleeping well and did not take care of my body. I was going through the most ugly divorce and  it was very stressful. I had to accept where I was and stop beating myself  up. It did not mean I had to feel sorry for myself, but I learned to be more kind and loving with one person I saw in the mirror every day— Tatyana!

I had to take care of my basic needs: sleep, good food, exercise, and lots of prayers.

And…You can reignite your passion by taking care of your basic needs first. You must balance yourself and get back to feeling normal. When you feel exhausted and depressed, the best thing you can do is SLEEP! You must sleep at least 9 hours, eat healthy clean meals, and drink plenty of water. It is very simple yet we avoid it.

Remember, your passion is ENERGY. When your energy reserves are low, you cannot feel excited about life. You must replenish your energy bank reserves. Then you can decide what you love to do and what you are passionate about. Until you feel good again, you will not recognize your passions. I advised my client  to increase self-care to reignite a sense of direction and his passions.

2. Choose words wisely.

Words can be our worst self-sabotaging tools! My client said ” I do not value MONEY. It does not longer matter”. I said, “A-ha! Now I see why you have money issues!”  Because he did not value money, money stopped showing up.  He has lost passion in life, and he associated his money flow with his passion. Since he has lost his passion money was no longer important.

But sometimes you have to respect what supports your life to avoid stressful life situations.

Words carry power. What you love, loves you. What you discredit, discredits you. You can talk yourself into success. You can talk yourself into failure. It is a choice! Words we speak can sabotage our own success. Watch your words. There is life and death in the power of your tongue. A wise man chooses words that can build him up. In his case he was using words that devalued what he was doing…and he was getting what he was choosing.

3. Be true to yourself.

When you try to be like “THEM” you will never be authentic. It will exhaust you. It will frustrate you. It will eventually lead you to the wrong relationships or business decisions. People you meet will reflect who you think you should be and you will feel fake. You have one life to live. Step aside from all you have been doing and ask yourself, “Do I force myself to be something I am not? Do I listen to my heart or what my ego says?”

When we try to be like them, we cannot blossom. Remember a daisy will never be a rose but yet they all have such a beauty and play its role in our lives. When you are true to YOURSELF, the right doors will open for YOU.

I want to finish my article with a poem that reminds us the power of being true to yourself

“Be True to You”:

As you set out on life’s road
unsure of the path you’ll go,
the most important thing you can do
is to always be true to “you”

Always remember who you are
in moments of struggle or fear.
Never forget or give up on
the hopes and dreams you hold dear

There will be setbacks and rejection
and moments of failure too,
but you must overcome any frustration
to achieve the potential of you.

Don’t forget to smile, or laugh,
or to live in the present;
no matter where life takes you
make every memory pleasant.

As you travel along your journey,
know that you’re never alone
and I’ll always be here for you
should you need the comfort of home.

Today I want you to ask yourself three questions,

1. Do I try to be like “Them”?

2. Do I choose words wisely?

3. Do I choose the best self-care for my body?

Have a great week!


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