7 Ways to Forgive Yourself and Others…. And Find True LOVE!



Self-forgiveness and self-love. Two topics. Two beginnings. Two outcomes.  Where do we start? Do we start forgiving ourselves because we love…or do we love because we forgive? That is the question we ask ourselves as we embrace the journey of self-love and self-forgiveness and forgiveness in general.

In the past two years as I coached clients, the topic of forgiveness has been the most important topic my clients wanted to discuss and to work through the issues that affected their forgiveness of others or themselves.

It was a tough area that I personally dealt with as I was going through a challenging divorce.  Today it would have been my wedding anniversary, 21 years, and I am okay sharing it because we are human and life happens. Did I feel sadness? Yes. Did I feel gratitude? YES?

I hope you can benefit from learning mindset tactics that can help you feel LIGHT and HAPPY again because that is what forgiveness does.

  • It gives you peace of mind, fills your heart with hopes, joy and inspiration.
  • It is no longer a heavy feeling in your heart.
  • It is a feeling of love, compassion, kindness and peace.

How do we forgive ourselves? Let me show you how you can adjust your thought patterns and simple things you can do to start forgiving yourself for mistakes, flaws and your life regrets.

Okay. Let’s go!

1. Write down everything that burdens you.

Everything…YES EVERYTHING.  You need to be honest with yourself and be raw. You must bring everything to the surface so you can face it.  That is where your healing starts.. It is a place of personal awareness.

2. Write down how you want to feel as a result of self-forgiveness.

It is a vision you have for your life. It is an outcome you see in your mind. How does it feel to feel self-forgiveness? What will it do for your life? How would you feel to forgive another human being? Will you feel compassion, more love, understanding?

Do you have any fears associated with forgiveness? Often we are afraid to forgive because we think we will be considered weak if we show compassion and kindness. Actually it is your strength. It takes a strong person to forgive. It takes a strong person to drop ego and forgive. What matters is your decision to forgive and being able to forgive.

It does take time to forgive. Forgiveness of others and ourselves is an experience. It is a journey of knowing yourself, your values, your standards and overcoming fears of future. It is about rebuilding yourself and becoming a better version of yourself.

3. Think of new choices you must make in order to make your life better.

New choices will help you see your past mistakes and understand that at that moment you did not understand certain life principles and you did your best or what you perceived as the best option. As you start establishing your new patterns you will see yourself in a new light. You will rebuild your confidence because self-forgiveness helps you see yourself less broken and more hopeful.

4. Write down your values. When you know your values stick to them. It will help you establish new boundaries and honor who you are and what you stand for.

5. Know your mentors.

Be careful what kind of teachers and mentors you surround yourself with. Not everyone will give you best advice. Everyone has their agenda and their life experiences. Trust your gut and consult with the ones who have similar values. That is why it is so important to establish your core values. write them down. Ask yourself if your teachers fit the mold of your new values.

6. Know your friends.

We live in the world of social media where everyone is a friend. Be picky about your inner circle. Your friends will influence you. What influence do you want to have in your life?

In the end I want to share the biggest a-ha moment: As you fill your heart with MORE love for yourself, it will be easy to forgive others and yourself.  Self-love means removing the layer of perception others create for you and accepting yourself as you are this very moment. From that point you can only choose what is best for you and you make the best decisions to improve your life, your lifestyle, your business, your wellness plan, your spiritual and personal growth. You make an effort to discover the best qualities in you and nurture them. As you grow, your will see your previous choices from the place of compassion and start appreciating yourself even more. Then you can forgive yourself with ease.

7. Start enjoying your life.

Start doing this your love. Write a list of new things you want to try.  Get yourself in a happy state of mind. You might discover new things about yourself you did not know you could do and you can make new friends.

Every hour of your life …you either exist or you love! As you find forgiveness in your heart, you will find TRUE LOVE as you look in the mirror! Yes,TRUE LOVE is YOU!


Coach Tatyana

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Discovering your life purpose: 3 simple questions you can ask yourself



Where am I now? Am I at the right place? Where do I want to be?

That is the question many women ask themselves when they start thinking about their future. As I was hiking one evening, I thought about the path I was taking. Even though the hiking trail was not new to me, I was still excited! I love spring and hiking in the spring is so refreshing, new and makes you really happy! I knew I would see new flowers, blooming trees and enjoy a peaceful evening. My focus was to enjoy the hike and finish it with a new sense of joy and peace in my heart. Some self-help gurus call it “mindful hiking” but I call it “reconnecting with myself time”

As we set our mind to discover our purpose and complete our journey we get caught up in the unknown. We get scared of what is ahead of us. We all want to know the final outcome. We want to control the outcome. Sometimes the answer can be quite scary— NO ANSWER. We do not always know the right answer. We do not often see the best solutions and all the amazing possibilities because we focus on the problem. The problem becomes the center of our life. We get stuck. We carry other people burdens without realizing they have their OWN journey to complete. We cannot see solutions because our “inner closet” is packed with STUFF that no longer matters and things we cannot change in life. 

We do not always see the answer and it is simply okay. Sometimes having NO answer is better than doing something just for the sake of doing a project. We love to get busy, but being busy is not going to accomplish anything. It will keep you exhausted and burned out. Passion is what drives you forward.

Sometimes you might get the answer, and it is not always  going to be the answer you wanted, but it will move you forward. It will be your next step towards your real purpose.  Quite often, the answer is deep within your mind, and it is buried under the layers of fears, uncertainty, doubts, little self-love and other issues that block you to see the answer you need. Because we are uncertain we are not sure about desires and dreams. We ask ourselves three burning questions:

  • How do we discover our answers?
  • How do we know what we want?
  • How do we become clear?

First of all, write down everything you love and do not love about your life. Write down all the events that have happened, your feelings, your thoughts. Just let it all out on the notepad. That is how you will discover your answers.

If we do know what we want, do we have enough confidence to get it done? Can we leave all the stuff behind us and just focus on our dream and passion? Are we going to be judged for being risk takers? Ask yourself, “If I had all confidence, no fear, no doubts, what would I want?” 

In our pursuit of regaining clarity, we must purge and let go of all that holds us stuck. It starts with you.  You can clean your house, let go of old memories, old energy, and clean your house all over. You should cleanse your body and remove toxins. It will give you the clarity you need to make new decisions and see your purpose eventually. It is possible to be unstuck, and to free yourself from the chains of toxic relationships, a career that does not reflect your interests and passions, bad health and financial crisis.

In the midst of our crisis we deal with fears. How can we overcome fears that are weighing us down? Do you remember the movie “What about Bob?” Take baby steps. Just baby steps.

I can give you one answer. Until you fed up with where you are at this very moment, your MUST will ALWAYS be YOUR “may be”. It must motivate you to get things done and you have NO choice, but to transform your life. Once you direct your thoughts to seek solutions and start doing something every day rather than nothing, your MAY BE will turn into MUST…

The question is.

How strong is your pain of living the way you are living now? What do you want to change in your life? Do you want to feel a relief? The disappointments can make you look into your soul and help you raise above all your challenges and move on. Be grateful for challenging seasons and know they train you to be more. They help you climb the hardest mountains so you can see everything you need to see when you get to the top. You regain clarity through your challenges. They help you remove and let go of everything that is not aligned with your values.

The good thing is you can still have fun and enjoy your life once you learn to enjoy your journey. The key is to be present in each moment. You are always going to be learning. You will always be evolving. You will always let go. You will love. You will never stop growing.

Do what you love. As my friend says, “Do what feeds your soul not what feeds your ego!” Very true. Our ego will always block our vision. Our purpose is bigger than our ego. Then this journey with all life challenges will be worthy, exciting and rewarding to you and others. It is not about the winning the battle or overcoming trials…it is about overcoming your ego and becoming a person you are meant to be! 

If you believe you need help in improving or changing your life, clearing blocks, old patterns, changing your mindset, I am here to help, I am accepting new clients and I will be honored to work with you.

Schedule a free call today if you are ready to invest in YOU!.

Have a great day!

Coach Tatyana

How To Overcome Self-Sabotage: 3 Beliefs That Can Frustrate You

1094027_10153067503475463_777139257_oIt was a beautiful Saturday morning. I was enjoying a cup of coffee on the patio of a local coffee shop.  Right before our session, my client expressed his desire to feel balanced and motivated. We talked about ups and downs in the world of a business owner, a man who was going through a few personal challenges, a father who did his best to support his kids. In order to help him have breakthroughs I had to understand where he was in life at that moment and how he viewed himself. Basically, I had to read his life story to get a good picture.

During our 90 minutes coaching session, we have covered top 3 beliefs that could frustrate us, sabotage our goals and what he could do to overcome self-sabotage.

1. Lack of passion.

Sometimes when we are exhausted we have a belief that we are losing our passion, a sense of purpose and become unclear about our direction in life.  Just a few years ago, I have also lost my passion, but not because I was no longer interested in doing what I did. I was simply exhausted. I was not sleeping well and did not take care of my body. I was going through the most ugly divorce and  it was very stressful. I had to accept where I was and stop beating myself  up. It did not mean I had to feel sorry for myself, but I learned to be more kind and loving with one person I saw in the mirror every day— Tatyana!

I had to take care of my basic needs: sleep, good food, exercise, and lots of prayers.

And…You can reignite your passion by taking care of your basic needs first. You must balance yourself and get back to feeling normal. When you feel exhausted and depressed, the best thing you can do is SLEEP! You must sleep at least 9 hours, eat healthy clean meals, and drink plenty of water. It is very simple yet we avoid it.

Remember, your passion is ENERGY. When your energy reserves are low, you cannot feel excited about life. You must replenish your energy bank reserves. Then you can decide what you love to do and what you are passionate about. Until you feel good again, you will not recognize your passions. I advised my client  to increase self-care to reignite a sense of direction and his passions.

2. Choose words wisely.

Words can be our worst self-sabotaging tools! My client said ” I do not value MONEY. It does not longer matter”. I said, “A-ha! Now I see why you have money issues!”  Because he did not value money, money stopped showing up.  He has lost passion in life, and he associated his money flow with his passion. Since he has lost his passion money was no longer important.

But sometimes you have to respect what supports your life to avoid stressful life situations.

Words carry power. What you love, loves you. What you discredit, discredits you. You can talk yourself into success. You can talk yourself into failure. It is a choice! Words we speak can sabotage our own success. Watch your words. There is life and death in the power of your tongue. A wise man chooses words that can build him up. In his case he was using words that devalued what he was doing…and he was getting what he was choosing.

3. Be true to yourself.

When you try to be like “THEM” you will never be authentic. It will exhaust you. It will frustrate you. It will eventually lead you to the wrong relationships or business decisions. People you meet will reflect who you think you should be and you will feel fake. You have one life to live. Step aside from all you have been doing and ask yourself, “Do I force myself to be something I am not? Do I listen to my heart or what my ego says?”

When we try to be like them, we cannot blossom. Remember a daisy will never be a rose but yet they all have such a beauty and play its role in our lives. When you are true to YOURSELF, the right doors will open for YOU.

I want to finish my article with a poem that reminds us the power of being true to yourself

“Be True to You”:

As you set out on life’s road
unsure of the path you’ll go,
the most important thing you can do
is to always be true to “you”

Always remember who you are
in moments of struggle or fear.
Never forget or give up on
the hopes and dreams you hold dear

There will be setbacks and rejection
and moments of failure too,
but you must overcome any frustration
to achieve the potential of you.

Don’t forget to smile, or laugh,
or to live in the present;
no matter where life takes you
make every memory pleasant.

As you travel along your journey,
know that you’re never alone
and I’ll always be here for you
should you need the comfort of home.

Today I want you to ask yourself three questions,

1. Do I try to be like “Them”?

2. Do I choose words wisely?

3. Do I choose the best self-care for my body?

Have a great week!


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Three big lessons you can learn from your haters and how to win your battles!


Can we love haters who challenge us and why should we love them? Once my mentor told me ‘Tatyana, love them!” For a brief moment, I thought she was so wrong. How can I love people who hate me even the ones who try to hide behind their masks.

With social media platforms such as Facebook Twitter and YouTube it is easier to post a nasty comment and react with anger and pain. We become quite negative about our haters on social media especially if they attack our business, our dreams and goals. We just give them a piece of mind! Sounds familiar?

But how do we handle it?

I have noticed that quite very successful entrepreneurs LOVE posting about their haters and how they stood up for their values and showed others how to handle the ones who were jealous of their success or how they should respond to the attacks on social media.

What If tell you one BIG secret?!   Haters are YOUR TEACHERS. They are not your enemies. They are NOT your friends. Just teachers.

  • They teach you how to respond with love
  • They teach you how to love yourself.
  • They teach you to recognize your hidden emotions.
  • They teach you about your self-worth.  Do you feel you have to prove you are MORE than them?
  • They show YOUR flaws. What if that hater is showing you something you do not like about yourself?

They teach us three important lessons so we can clear personal deep issues and have a better life.

Lesson 1. Swing effect

Kids love to be pushed on the swing.  I still remember my mom gently pushing me on the swing in my grandma’s backyard.  I felt free and happy. But then there were moments when kids I played with would purposely push me on the swing to upset me and If I asked them to stop, they simply ignored my demands.

Do you get my point? How do you respond to people when they push your buttons? 

As we deal with haters, no matter how strong we have tried to look in dealing with them, we still respond with negative emotions by acknowledging their presence. We try to prove we are much stronger than them.

But the key is not your strength..It is your peace and love in your heart towards the situation. You may say, “Yeah, Right…How is that possible?”

But in order to achieve that, you must become love, feel peace in your heart and create harmony within. You cannot give love if you do not own love. If somebody swings hate into your direction…send some love back. Love or hate…your choice. It will come to back to you.  What do you want to receive in life? Love or hate? I am sure LOVE.

Not everyone can respond with love. It requires practice.


What you give…you receive…Do you want to be embraced with a wave of love or wave of….toxic poop?

It is your choice…if they send negative energy….send love instead by staying calm and visualizing a ball of beautiful sparkling energy going back to them on the same swing.

Lesson 2. True Emotions

Notice what emotions have surfaced. Few days I chatted with a very successful coach on Facebook. She has tried to hide her true emotions after she was bullied by another successful woman.  She shared her feelings with others and encouraged others to ignore haters. She said she was perfectly fine, and she was not paying attention to her “bully”. However, I could see she has given all her attention to the one who upset her the most. She gave part of her power away and I had to explain to her that her bully was her teacher. If she did not have something that needs to be addressed, the bully would not be present in her life. Ignoring haters WILL not  change what is going inside of you. They will come back into your life until you learn a lesson.

The only way to stop all the madness is to recognize their value in your growth. Be grateful that you have been shown the areas in your life you could work on. You will be able to create space for something wonderful in your life once you clear negative emotions built up within you. YES, be grateful to your “hater”.  He is not your enemy…got it? He or she is YOUR teacher.

Work on releasing all the negative emotions. If you felt you have been attacked, work on the matters of self- love and trust towards yourself and others. I do EFT, meditations, journaling, integrated energy therapy and lot of prayers. I turn to God in prayer to reveal to me what needs to be worked on.

Do you trust or do not trust yourself? Write it down.

Do you forget or afraid to give love? Write it down.

Do you love being kind, caring towards yourself? Write it down.

Lesson 3. Stay cool

No matter what–stay calm.

In Russia we say “stay calm as a chilled cucumber! ” Yep. Do not react with your negative barf….respond with love by acknowledging their different or unique insights. Be open to see their point of view. There is always something to learn.

Remember it is only their opinion. But it all goes back to you. People become your mirror.  Ask yourself, “What do I need to work on in my life?” Try to stay calm as your face challenging people. They are in your life for a reason and often for a season.

No matter how successful you are, your tough love teachers  are not always going to be your friends. They are people who challenge you or people you deal on a daily basis, so you can learn certain life lessons, clean up and achieve more.

In summary, I want to give a piece of advice- be gentle to yourself as well. Make sure your self-care is top notch. Sleep 8-9 hours every night, eat vegetables and fruits, eliminate sugars and processed foods. Eat clean and drink plenty of water. Laugh more and take 30 min walks every day. It is basic but it will support you through challenging times.

If you are dealing with life issues that are affecting your relationships, career or your business let’s work together. Fill the application on my page and I will be honored to be of service to you. Click here to learn more.

With love


Coach Tatyana


How to use corny gratitude practices to rebuild your life and heal your heart



Hi, there!

It is a Sunday afternoon. I usually love writing on Sundays and I have not written in a while. I have been debating what I should share with you that could make a difference in your life and something you can start doing right away to experience breakthroughs. It might be corny or cheesy but you know it is simple. It works!

This year as I faced a few personal life and family challenges, the biggest challenge in 2015 was my Gratitude challenge. Right after my divorce was final in December 2014, I started a brand new divorce recovery challenge— a gratitude challenge.  I realized that if one thing I had to change, I had to change myself. I also saw if I wanted to change relationships with a father of my boys I had to change. If I wanted to be the best MOM I had to take an inventory of my mind and my heart.

Gratitude was the instrumental tool in my recovery. Gratitude became my number #1 choice.

Gratitude has helped me to weed all the negative thoughts, complaints, blames out of my mind and shape new positive and abundant thoughts. Gratitude helped me to cope and handle everyday stress and find blessings even when I could only count a few of them. It opened my heart to find blessings in the places I never thought was possible.

I saw the biggest opportunities were within my mind. If I wanted to be more, I needed to feed my mind with the most empowering thoughts, love, and positive energy. Gratitude practice became my discipline. It protected me from anger, envy and self-pity.

When I was little, my parents had a big garden. Every weekend I was working in the garden and was pulling the weeds out just to come back the following weekend and do it all over. It was a very important task for me. I had to make sure my garden was clean and cared for. I was so proud of it. We had a great harvest every fall and I was a quite accomplished gardener. It felt great to see the results of my labor and enjoy fresh veggies and berries.

When I was reading about Sir John Templeton, a legendary philantropist and investor, and his letter he had included in his Christmas card,  I was intrigued and it made a total sense to me. It was about our mind being a garden we should tend to.

According to the source, Sir John Templeton wrote a Christmas Letter to his family in 1962:

He looked at the mind as a garden: “If you exercise no control, it will become a weed patch and a source of shame and misery. If you exercise wise control, then it will be filled with God’s miracles and become a place of indescribable beauty. You are free to choose which. How can you do it? Simply, for example, develop a habit of looking at each thought as you would a plant. If it is worthy, if it fits the plan you desire for your mind, cultivate it. If not, replace it. How do you get it out of your mind? Simply by putting in its place two or three thoughts of love or worship, for no mind can dwell on more than two or three thoughts at one time. 

“Circumstances outside the garden of your mind do not shape you. You shape them. For example, if you expect treachery, allowing those thoughts to dwell in your mind, you will get it. If you fill your mind with thoughts of love, you will give love and get it. If you think little of God, He will be far from you. If you think often of God, the Holy Spirit will dwell more in you. The glory of the universe is open to every man. Some look and see. Some look and see not.
“Gardens are not made in a day. God gave you one lifetime for the job. Control of your garden or your mind grows with practice and study of the wisdom other minds have bequeathed to you. He who produces an item of unique beauty in his garden or his mind may have a duty to give that seed to others. As your body is the dwelling place of your mind, so is your mind the dwelling place of your soul. The mind you develop is your dwelling place for all your days on earth, and the soul you develop on earth may be the soul you are stuck with for eternity. God has given you the choice.” 
My challenge to you is to write 10 blessings every day. Gratitude will be the best tool to clear your mind, your beautiful God’s gift.
The best side effects of gratitude:
1. Giving heart and generosity
2. Forgiving heart
3. Stress-free life
4. Uplifting others and focusing on helping less fortunate
5. Becoming clear about your life purpose and mission
6. Career or business success
7. Better relationships
8. Clear mind
9. Much more…
Are you ready to create a positive change….?
Start with gratitude today!
With love
Coach Tatyana

Limitless Living Mastery: One Simple Tip In Achieving Your Goals

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Today I am giving you one simple tip that will create a shift and help you achieve goals and overcome challenges. It is called  the power of imagination.

The beautiful thing happen when your desire is aligned with your belief about yourself. All big goals start with a mental image. However you might have a big desire but you see yourself unable to achieve your goals because of your deep beliefs. According to Emile Coue, a french psychologist who referred to this as the law of reverse effect. “When your desires and imagination are in conflict your imagination gains the day

For example…”I will use my will power overcome the struggles and failures” you are reinforcing the failure and that only by willpower you can believe you can overcome it. You are showing you are powerless.

How many times have you set your goals and then nothing happened? You might have done everything you were supposed to do, but something has prevented you from achieving them. Quite often it is the power of our mind.  You are what you perceive and imagine yourself to be.

First, mental effort leads to your self-defeat and creates the opposite of what you desire.  The problem is you are trying TOO hard and that is where you are making a mistake.

Secondly, you are imagining the opposite which is the failure. Your focus is on obstacles and no longer on the ways to achieve or how you will feel once achieve your goals. In order to achieve something, the mental image of what you want should be aligned with your desire…If your mental image is filled with fear, obstacles, doubts your desire is not enough. Mental image builds the bridge and creates an agreement between your desire and imagination.

I hope it helps you in achieving your goals in life. If you liked you have read so far, make sure book ZERO cost Limitless Living Session today and I will get back to you within 24 hours to schedule an appointment.

Love Coach Tatyana

HOT INTERVIEW: Subconscious Mind Tapping- Your Secret Formula to Get What You Truly Want!



Let me ask you a question,

What if you had a secret formula to get what you truly want?

Imagine having the exact blueprint to achieve your goals with ease and joy.

Is it possible? Well the creator of Subconscious Mind Tapping, Darren Little believes so.

I have interviewed Darren about his brand new training and you are about to learn how to transform your life by doing the work on your subconscious mind. Pretty cool, right?

Enjoy my interview and again thank you for being my awesome reader.  Please share the interview with your loved ones, friends you care about and make sure comment below. We love to hear from you!

I have asked Darren five important questions below and I want to make sure you check the training right here as well.

1. How do we know if we have limiting beliefs?

Just look at the money you have in your bank account.
If you are still struggling, you have limiting beliefs about
success, deserve-ability and worthiness and there are
emotional blockers between you and your dream.

Look at your relationships, your health, your communication,
your spiritual connection, your peace of mind, your career.

If any of them are off base. or out of line or not producing the
results you want, it’s usually connected to limiting beliefs.

These are all based upon past events, early programming
and our core beliefs about whatever the topic.

Example: If I go to the gym it will be painful. So why go?
If I speak up, people will laugh and judge me. So why speak up?
If I invest money, I will lose it. So why bother investing?
If I get into a relationship I will get hurt. So why bother being in one?

The human being moves away from,
or avoids pain and moves towards pleasure. As in the
examples above you can see why a person would be
stuck based on their limiting beliefs.

2. Where do limiting beliefs come from?

Early childhood programming that comes from our parents,
the school system and the media. They start before we
even understand the language. Right when we are curious
and innocent and reaching out to explore this new world
we are in. No. Don’t. Stop. Be careful.

They also come from past trauma and pain and then repeating
the scenario over and over and over in our minds.

The subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between
a real event and a perceived event. Each time we replay an event
in our mind or think of a negative outcome the subconscious mind
believes that it actually happened.

3. How do limiting beliefs stop us from reaching our success?

They create a huge amount FEAR around the desired outcome.
Many times there is trauma and pain linked to a situation
based upon events that happened in the past. The subconscious
links taking action to pain. The human being moves away from,
or avoids pain and moves towards pleasure.

Example: “I tried an online business in the past and I lost
all of my money. I tried everything and it didn’t work.
So if I start another one, I will lose all of my money
again with that one too. Everyone I know has had the same
experience therefore, it won’t work, no matter what I do.

4. What has inspired you to create your product?

Over 25 years on the path of personal development and studying
with Tony Robbins, Dr. Lee Pulos and Dr. Dov Baron.

Success is more than just confidence, self esteem and personal power.
It is more than just understanding neurolinguistic programming,
mirroring and modelling, visualization, the subconscious mind
and our core beliefs about money. It is understanding how our
thoughts, words and emotions are creating our reality. The human
brain is programmed to self destruct and it takes daily effort and
understanding how all of these pieces of the puzzle fit together
to create optimum results.

5. How can this training help a person in achieving breakthroughs?

Once people learn the formula of Subconscious Mind Tapping, they
can take full control and ownership of their life path in all areas and
create total balance. Once they understand more about the two
worlds that exist simultaneously and how their body is communicating
with electrons, it becomes a lot easier to steer their success.

A few little tiny tweaks can make the world of difference.
Just like a radio that is slightly off the station. No matter how loud
you turn it up, all you will get is static. Just a little tiny adjustment
and a symphony of music begins to play.

Once a person understands how the Rubiks cube works, it’s very
easy to solve the puzzle and many people can do it with their
eyes closed.

Get the full training RIGHT HERE and make sure share this blog post with others.


Your Coach T

How to Become a Strong and Powerful Woman: 3 Things Every Woman Should Do…

11856473_10155892037655463_1181917273293991093_o “I do not fix problems. I fix my thinking. Then problems fix themselves.” Louise Hay

Hello.. My name is Tatyana. I am a woman. I am a mom. and…I am worthy. Not long ago I was lost. Everything I once believed in was shattered. I had to start from scratch. Rebirthing experience was quite painful and learning to love myself was honestly scary. I had no choice but to emerge from the depth of the darkest pit in my life. I was living there. I was ready for a change. I was done living in fears I was ready for healing. I was ready for God’s magical touch. I was ready to learn how to live again. I was done with a struggle. I wanted a new relationship with God. And they say when a student is totally ready a teacher shows up.

That was almost 2 years ago. I met one of my spiritual teachers. Mr E. He loves being mysterious, so I call him Mr E. To be honest, I was a bad student. I failed miserably. I thought I knew everything.  I was wrong. I am sure he is reading it and laughing with me, but at that time I thought my life would not get better with his principles and teachings. I was looking for something different, magical, spectacular with a lot of fireworks…and it was quite simple. I had to learn to be humble. I had to learn to silence my chatter. I had to deal with my ego. I had to tell it to stop. I was going through a spiritual boot camp. I felt exhausted. I was expecting meditations and healing would work fast. I was expecting peaceful mornings of prayer.

But it was a tough work. It was a battle of my ego and my soul.  He told me I had to do it or I would do 100 push ups. No thanks. I was ready for spiritual pushups instead. My mind was constantly racing. I was at war with my ego. I was releasing the old me. I was letting go of all negative patterns, programming and layers of what did not belong to me, so I could see REAL TATYANA.

Mr E has taught me how to clear my negative beliefs and patterns, and to be in the moment. The peace of knowing how to handle challenging situations with joy was not an overnight success. It was days and months of practice or I would have to do 50 to 100 push ups a day. I learned how to reset my energy levels and regroup.  I embraced the principles of energy healing and meditation, understanding my body and the power of my mind. My daily prayer was to clear my mind and to see my purpose. I had to take care of my mind before I did anything else. I had to let go of insecurities and it was a long process.

I had to fix my thinking if I wanted a new beginning…

During the course of 20 months, I have learned that I did not have to become a strong woman. I was a strong woman. I was worthy. I realized that challenges would only polish us like a beautiful diamond. If you think you are not strong enough, think twice. If you are going through challenges this very moment, do not get discouraged. You are just being polished. You are being updated or even rebuilt. Be open to growth. Be open to thinking big and dreaming big! Your dreams will change. Your thoughts will change.

You experience a spiritual SHIFT. You become that strong woman. You are the girl who knows how to walk in peace because she experienced turmoil. You are that girl who knows how to love unconditionally because she learned to accept love from God. You are the strong woman who builds her spiritual muscles through her teachers that come into her life.  Courage is her best protection when she is singled out. She stands tall and light as a graceful birch tree but with deep strong roots of an oak tree because she experienced being yanked out of her comfort zone. She practices daily gratitude and kindness because it keeps her going.. I had thought that being a nice and compassionate woman would not make me a strong business woman.

….But I realized that my strength was in the compassion and kindness towards others to understand their needs. I learned we should never underestimate power of a woman. I could have been brutally honest and straightforward, but I choose a compassionate way of dealing with people. I used to be an aggressive gal in sales and push very hard but it is not my way. I believe in being authentic giving, nurturing, but I have my boundaries. People remembered Tatyana as a hustler…But…I said real Tatyana evolved.

Major Life lesson: You don’t need to be aggressive to be happy building a business or dealing with others. You do not need to prove your points..You just need to be confident in who you are… I am grateful for people who pushed me forward and ones who gave up on me because I was no longer an older version. I learned to be compassionate because I knew hate. I learned how to be courageous because I knew fears. I know loyalty of friends I knew betrayal. I know peace because I felt turmoils. So.. It taught me to seek love within me so I could be more. When you go through life challenges, you set much HIGHER goals. They seem unrealistic but they push you to do what YOU never did. You have new priorities. When you go through changes every woman must take care of three things

1. Health — your body, your mind and your spiritual health. I start my day with mediation, prayers. I drink my alkaline kangen water to hydrate myself and have more energy. It gives me mental clarity as well. I do walk at least three times a week and do my circuit training 2. Finances.

For women it is important to be secure and be independent or codependent. There is nothing wrong to seek solutions to create wealth, earn MORE income. it just shows you have a burning desire to make more. When women make more they contribute more. They are natural givers.

3. Love

I am talking about self love and self esteem. I have learned that when I loved myself, the doors opened. Sometimes my love relationship with my own self was not clear. It was not the way I wanted. I worked on my heart through clearing my blocks, using my own intuition, identifying what needed to be worked on. I was constantly in the state of awareness. The results were the reflection of my self love. When I have increased the levels of love within my heart everything else became better. I felt elevated, lighter.

When I let go of hurts and pains (it did take me while) I felt very peaceful. I could accept love from others. The doors opened that were shut and I found myself doing what I love- helping others to experience freedom and love shift. The journey into my heart was amazing and I am grateful because It helped me to see my vision, my purpose, my talents and appreciate myself for who I was…

I am a woman. I am a mom. I am God’s baby.. and what about YOU?> I want to tell you that life happens for YOU. Have a joy in your heart that is happening for your growth. You can have freedom in your life again. You can create income you deserve. You can be with people you love. You can forgive and heal. You can travel again. You can write again.

You can breath and live as God wants you.

If you want to see how I can help you to take ownership of your life, embrace life changes, and get your freedom back…click here

If you are seeking for solutions to add MORE income and would love to partner with me go here .

Love you all! Tatyana

Life after divorce: I have not been honest….


I have not been honest with myself until….

I have not been honest with myself until I looked at my sons and said…”Heck…what am I doing? Where am I going”? I tell my kids to follow their passion and do what they desire…yet I let my desire slip away…

This thought has been on my mind for a long time. “Me, Tatyana…a woman who inspires people to be better and more…how can I NOT be honest with myself?”

I forgot what it was like to be honest …with one person I should honor the most –  ME. As I was looking at myself in the mirror putting my favorite makeup on, I saw a 40 year old woman who has always believed that honesty was the best policy , even if it would hurt others temporarily. I knew honesty would save myself and others from a long term emotional pain but I was afraid to make a quantum leap to accept myself as I was and just be “authentic me”. I let my divorce and other life trials steer me away from my dreams and I experienced major struggles in my heart. I had to stop it. I had to do it for my sake and my kids sake…YET my divorce pushed me forward to be honest with myself and what I truly craved in life- to love myself and accept who I was and what I loved doing. Drastic life changes either make you or break you. It is a choice. Being true to yourself can set you free.

Then one day I was reading an email from one of the leading coaches that got my attention. She said ONE SINGLE word that made a shift in my entire being – DESIRE. I felt it in every cell of my body. I saw a movie in my head of what had happened in my life to get me to where I was and who I became and where I was heading…

I have always told my coaching clients one thing “ TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF”…Today I had a big aha moment- taking care of yourself starts with honesty. Pure raw honesty that makes you cry from joy that you finally have some guts to say what you want to say and be what you want to be. You let your heart sing your song…you simply do not let the songs of others control your life.

Deep inside I knew what I wanted in life. I envisioned it. I trusted…but then sabotaged myself not because I was not worthy. But because I was not honest with my desire to be who I was destined to be – a coach, an inspirational writer, and the best MOM. When you embrace your desire and go with it your perception of the challenges changes. Challenges become fun and you seek the ways to overcome them. When you hate what you do, challenges become burdens and you have to push so hard that it stresses you out and you want to quit.

The beauty of your life journey…

You see it all starts with a raw authentic desire. Desire to live a real life. Desire to have the best things in life. Desire to love and be loved. Desire to find a soul mate and live in your passion doing what you love.


I love life coaching. It is one of my passions to serve people. I love to see people lives transform. Their mindset shifts. They see somebody cares enough to be compassionate and kind to them to show them how to move forward and make good choices in life.  They are afraid to love, live and laugh. They forget what is like to matter in somebody’s else life and they forget that they matter with their story, their desire, their passions. They might even believe they live in a fantasy world according to their friends’ opinions and they need someone to tell their dreams do matter.

I have talked to many men and women in my coaching and consulting work. They all want one thing – to do what they desire. They want passion in life. They want to matter. But it will NOT happen unless you are honest with who you are.

Ask yourself what you TRULY desire.

Ask yourself what would it look like?

Be child like.

As Proverbs in the Bible says “Where there is no vision life perishes….” Why do we put a vision on the back burner and forget our own song of life. We let others ‘ song lead us….and we just become the shy followers. No. we are meant to shine. We are meant to be the light God wants us to be.

Everything starts with our desires. Do not push them so deep inside of you and hide it that you forget about them or embarrassed by them.

Honesty is so important w hen it comes to asking yourself “What do I truly want in life?” It starts right there in your heart.

  • Knowing what you really want and being ok with it is honesty.
  • When you can be honest with yourself you become honest with others and meet other people who are honest with you. You start trusting that you will be guided to the right resources and people to help you with achieving it.
  • You will be focused on finding solutions and you will be motivated by your desire that came from a honest heart.
  • Somehow things will work out because you have been honest with yourself and that matters the most.

What you desire may not happen right away but you will be on your path. You will learn new things, experience new things, meet new people that will connect the dots to achieve what you desire.

The good thing happens when we are honest with ourselves – we become open to new adventures, and we are no longer afraid to get out and claim what we have been hiding in our heart for so long.

Honesty with others is awesome. But the awesome sauce, as my son Daniel would say, is honesty with yourself.

If you are ready to make a change but feel you need a push and guidance to get you moving I will be honored to work with you. You can apply for my personal coaching on my website and I will get back to you within 24 hours.

If you are a passionate about your life message and want to serve others through telling your story, reaching a bigger audience and even media I am taking a handful of qualified clients to work with me. It is not for everyone but it could be YOU. Let’s find out.. You can book your consultation here and I look forward to serving you.


Have a great week!


My Divorce, Freedom and Independence Day


coachphoto1As we celebrate an Independence Day I thought to share my thoughts about freedom.  I came to America 21 years ago. I was only 19 years old.  Sometimes I cannot believe it has been over 20 years since the day I arrived here.  As I reflect on my life I had an interesting life journey. It taught me to appreciate my life more than ever. It taught me to value life, people in my life and see them as teachers. I am forever grateful!

Unfortunately, in December 2014 my divorce was final. It is not something you talk about publicly. It was the most difficult time in my life and becoming a single mom of two sons was not something I was looking forward to.  Some people will call it a bliss or freedom…but for me it became an opportunity to grow and find myself, reestablish my roots in America and start my life all over at the age of 40. Freedom requires sacrifices and I had to let of my ego so I could be MORE. It was my way of moving on, getting unstuck so I could experience TRUE freedom. Do not take me wrong. I do not advise anyone to get divorced to be FREE. Freedom is a personal choice no matter if you are single or married.

I made a decision to be  free and fabulous. why? Because FREEDOM is a decision to be fabulous even if you are single. I made a decision to find myself and love myself for who I am.

So…what is FREEDOM? Freedom is a choice we make. It is something we take for granted and quite often we believe we do not deserve it because of certain events, programming and our parental influence. We lose our voice to speak the truth completely. But it is only for a short time. We eventually find the voice inside that wants to come out and be loud ENOUGH to be heard!

Do you feel you lost your voice? Have you lost  your identity and do not know where you are going? Are you afraid to be yourself because somebody said you could not have it or not worthy? Are you restricted in your life to think freely and be creative? Do you allow your family to  influence your personal decisions or your career choices? Just because they think they could not have it all….they think you have the same destiny…..WRONG!

Well let me tell you….you  have a choice. Your mind is the most infinite muscle you can stretch and remove all limitations. I remember growing up in the Soviet Union and my grandmother used to listen to the same record over and over. Her favorite artist was Anna German …She played her songs until we could not handle any longer!  But we still loved our grandma and her vanilla sweet rolls! One day my aunt told me my sweetest grandma it was time to change it! It was TIME for a new music in the house.

Are you afraid of having new music playing in your life? We are afraid of letting go of the old music we play in our head, old lyrics we keep listening to. In order to feel free we must create CHANGE and let go of old music, lyrics and emotions ! New and good things are in store for you! Do you believe it?

Once we make a decision we create a space to receive more and feel freedom.  FREEDOM can be scary. It can be exciting. It is how you look at it. Freedom is knowing you are on the right path. You feel peace and serenity. You cannot have FREEDOM without feeling it first, visualizing, believing in it. Freedom is doing what you love, serving others they way you think is best! Freedom is when you can release yourself from toxic thinking and truly think positive. Freedom is when you lose attachment or need to be loved and appreciated. You learn to love yourself, a new you and find peace in it.

How do you feel free?

1. Decide what you want

2. Claim it.

3. Ask yourself what freedom means to you

4. How can you serve others with your freedom

5. Believe it and receive it.

Desire to have freedom will open new doors to healing your mind, restoring your life and making it much better than ever.  It is NOT a selfish desire. It is about living in passion, knowing who you are and staying in your power.  It is about doing what you want, making your own career or biz choices and following your heart! Freedom gives your ability to trust yourself and your intuition. It is not going to be perfect but it is your life. We live and learn. Do  not put yourself in a trap relying only on others to give you freedom! When you decide to have it others will feel it. You project it . They receive it.

Isn’t TIME to feel alive and have JOY, ABUNDANCE you were promised to receive by our awesome CREATOR? Freedom should be celebrated every day not just on the 4th!


Happy Independence Day