Simple ways to bounce back, rebuild your self-worth and move forward

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I remember sitting in front of this mirror three years ago thinking “Where am I now? Where do I want to be?” You heard the story about the Magic Mirror asking “Mirror, mirror, who is the fairest in the land? What I found out that the Magic Mirror story was about self-love and speaking the truth and here I was ….looking for answers…just the way you are now looking for the ways to thrive and not to survive.  Even though I was writing my book and had a huge desire to share my story, I had a big intuition that my story had just begun and my book would have a different ending…

The question many folks ask themselves when they start thinking about their future, “Where am I going? Am I going in the right direction?” Sometimes the answer can be quite scary. We do not always know the right answer. We do not often see solutions and possibilities

I will be honest there is NO simple answer to the problem. If it did exist everyone would have it. However, the answer is within. It is deep within your mind, and it is buried under the layers of fears, uncertainty, doubts, little self-love and other issues that block you to see the answer you need.

How do we move forward?  How do we know what we want? If we do know what we want, do we have enough confidence to get it done? Can we leave all the stuff behind us and just focus on our dream and passion? Are we going to be judged for being risk takers?

It is possible to be unstuck, and free your life from the chains of toxic relationships, a career that has not growth potential, a bad health and financial crisis? How can we overcome fears that are weighing us down?

I can give you one simple answer. Until you fed up with where you are your MUST will be “may be” It must motivate you and you have NO choice but to transform your life.

You might wonder…”But how do I transform my life? How do I bounce back when I felt I could not even go on? How do I bounce after divorce or break up… How do I get the passion back in your life? How do I feel more joy, have more self-confidence when all these thoughts occupy my mind 24/7.”

Why do I tell you that? What is possible? I believe everything is possible. It is possible to fail and it is possible to succeed. Your thoughts activate you and your actions. They can make you fail if you let them and can help you to succeed in life. Certain events trigger your change and how you respond to that change will determine the outcome.

What if what you were seeking and searching and finally got it, you have realized it was not what you really wanted..Then, you have to start all over…but you are exhausted and do not have a clue how to get back on track.

What do you do when what you want is a simple thing- basics such as food, home, family. You do not even think about where you want to be months or years from now. You are thinking about where you want to be tomorrow and how you are going to get there. is that normal? YES it is getting back to living life and a part of bouncing back. You must have all your basics covered to feel safe and supported before you do BIG transformation.

Bouncing back is a journey. It is coming alive after life events that could have pushed you down, but somewhere in your heart you have believed you could get up and all you had in your arsenal was FAITH in the UNSEEN life ahead of you. It is called LIFE TRANSFORMATION.

I know I have been there where you are now this moment. After my divorce  and experiencing major losses, I had a big desire to bounce back, start fresh, go after my dreams but something was stopping me. I could not figure out what was causing me to be miserable, stuck, and it became my mission to figure it out. I decided to master the laws of mind. I believed I could figure it all out. The answer was fear. I had all tools and resources, but my fear was a little plug that needed to be removed and  little by little it started going away…

Let me assure you,  I am a human and I do still have fears but at least I learned to manage my mind to overcome them by focusing on the bigger picture and not being stuck in the fear zone. It is not always easy, but it’s a decision you have to make – to live with fear in your heart or not.

I also started to believe I was more than what I was saying about myself. I know you are much more than the story you are telling about yourself and rehearsing it every time you get a chance.

But it took a divorce, major life disappointments and  looking at my life from a different perspective to make change within and rebuild Tatyana and I know you can do it too. It may not be a divorce for you that triggered your change, but I am sure you have reasons to transform your life,. and I am so happy you are reading it. I am grateful and honored that I am helping you revive your spirit, bounce back, start all over, and create a new life story.

Let me show you what you need to do to make a fresh start in your life and how you can bounce back.’

Are you ready?

Then let’s go!

First of all, you should stop being AVAILABLE to everyone. Boundaries are importantYou must know your priorities and set boundaries before you commit to any change and transformation. You must determine your values and plan to stick to them no matter what if it even gets tough. Knowing what you stand for and what is your # 1 priority will get you going.

Write it all down. Take a notepad and get it out of your system. You must see it on the paper and let your heart guide you.

In order to change, you must know WHY you want to change. What is the driving force? Ask yourself “What are my fears?” Are they pushing me to change or stop me? What is my deepest pain that I wanted to heal inside?

How can I be more?

How did my life disappointments compel me to find something new about myself and discover what I was meant to be?

Secondly…what do you desire to have as a result of your change? What is the outcome?

Write it down.

Restore your life?

Be more confident?

Have more self-love?

Healthy respect for yourself?

Business or career that grows you?

Be alive and happy?

See opportunities and grab them?

Remember a very simple rule.Transformation starts with your ability to choose. You can make NEW choices today that can empower you, grow you, make you  accountable, develop you to be more and happier. Every day as you wake up write down the choices for today and stick to them. It is not going to be easy but it is so worth of making a change.

If you are ready to make a new step forward towards your transformation because you are sick and tired of your old YOU, book a session today. Click here for all details about my VIP transformational life coaching.

Sincerely

Coach T

 

 

What I learned from Harvey Mackay, the author “Swim with the sharks without being eaten alive”

Today I was listening to Harvey Mackay , the most successful author, an amazing speaker and a trainer and if you donot know him you need to google his name and read about him. Well he amazed me with his confidence. How? He interviewed the most successful people for one of his books and when it was time to publish he believed he could publish 100,000 copies of his book. He did convince the publishers. He believed that he could do it.. He had attitude of a winner. He took a risk and it was so worthy.

One lesson we can learn from this example is that confidence makes the most impact on your success. Without confidence you cannot have positive thoughts and actions. Without confidence in yourself you cannot even go and find a mentor.
Confidence is like taking a sharp knife and cutting through the uncertainty of intrapped thinking. You must have a mindset of success and belief.. You must believe it is already there.

The second quality I saw in Mr Mackay was that no matter how succesful he became he still has mentors.. He reread many books from “Think and Grow Rich”, Dale Karnegie books dozens of times. Why? Because every time we read we find something that is hidden between the lines. We find wisdom in the same content because we grow up and see the information in a different light. We get aha moments. It happens all the time… It happened to me and what about you?

The third quality of a successful entrepreneur is ability to establish connections.
Harvey Mackay had a huge rollodex of people he met, coached, spoke in front of… Big names, big companies.. He believed that his books would be sold because of his connections, and because of his credibility and his reputation. He start networking with the right people people who can show you the path to the new YOU. They will bring you into their spiderweb where you will see others who want to connect with you.

It amazes me that some people are afraid to connect with successful people because they are intimidated or they think do not know enough or good enough. You must be brave but not obnoxious. You must be willing to learn and master your skills. You also must believe that these successful people are no different than you are. They only have different set of skills and different perceiption about the same things you have, you do and live with but they are successful because they made a choice to learn from the successful people. If you want to be successful and become a super star in your business you must be made out of the same dough and have same ingredients as they are…

Have a great weekend!

Tatyana Gann

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Tatyana Gann is an online entrepreneur an online marketing mentor, a social media and online PR consultant, a professional connector, a mom of two great boys and an amazing hostess. To Learn More About Tatyana Gann, subscribe to her free newsletter

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