In the past two weeks I got emails from my readers asking me about FEARS. They wanted to know how to manage and overcome fears. They were ashamed of living in fear. They did not have confidence to move forward. But they knew they needed to do something about it.
Does it sound familiar? Are you ashamed of your fears?
First of all you must accept your fears…Often we are taught to get rid of it as fast as we feel it. We are taught it is a bad thing. Good news— accept your fears, so you can understand the roots of your fears. It takes a very strong person to say “Heck, I do have fears and I am working through them”. Fears do teach us to take care of our basic necessities in life. They teach us how to be grounded and accountable.
Tip: When you push your fears in the corner, you do not get rid of them. You simply cover the mess up. You simply deny your human emotion. When you accept your fears you open your mind to do what you have never done. I used to be afraid of dogs. Growing up I had a major fear of dogs. It did not matter what size they were. I had FEAR of being attacked. I was attacked by a dog when I was little so I kept telling myself dogs were not my friends. Well, in 2012 I learned the dogs could be your therapy. They could be your loyal friend you never had with the most unconditional love. FEAR melted away when I faced it and made a decision to see an alias in what I feared the most.
When you accept your fears you open your mind to do what you have never done
Secondly ask yourself, “What if our our fear is that we have the power to do better things in life”?
I love what Marianne Williamson says about fear of being powerful beyond measure, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Your playing small does not serve the world
I think when we realize we can be powerful and improve our life, we simply resist the opportunity to grow. We, instead, should claim that we are God’s masterpiece and as Marianne says “Your playing small…” will not get us where we need to be in life.
Ask yourself again, “Does my fear of being powerful, significant, influential keep me from my true purpose of serving people”?
What is costing YOU to play small?
Do not let fear control your life. Even in the situations when we are scared for our life, ask yourself
“Is it a fear for my life– for my survival and my life safety?”
If it is then ask yourself “What resources do I have now to handle it and where I can get them?” Job or business security, establishing good health and a safe place are important in managing fears in order to move forward.
Another factor to consider is that fear can keep us stuck in the same situation and we repeat self sabotaging patterns. What if you you establish a new belief, “What does fear allow me to do and be?” Is it serving a purpose of NOT doing what I want? Because fear can serve two purposes: one is to push you forward…and one to keep you stuck…Fear can push you to be brave. You have to go through fear and quite often it is not bad as you think.
What do you allow fear to do to your life? Have you allowed fears to stop you doing things you wanted to do? When you realize that fears are costing you a success, a better relationship, a new career or even financial freedom you will make a decision to do something about it.
Do not run away from fears. They are normal emotions but you must NOT stay in the fearful state of mind for a long time. You must do something about it. Focus on your dreams. Taking baby steps towards your dreams will melt fears away because dreams are more significant than living in fear.
What if…it is a just illusion to justify something you are not willing to do…
What if I could mentor you to help you to overcome fears and regain confidence, peace and be happier in your professional and personal life? Are you committed to your success?
Have a great day!