Your Worst Enemy: 5 Ways To Deal With Personal Fears..

Very often we have fears in life. Small fears. Big Fears. Size of elephant fears or even a size of a mouse fear. It is all FEAR. Fear is a dominating element in many people lives. The interesting thing is that people are not afraid of somebody else or event in their lives. They are afraid of themselves and their reactions. The fear of unknown causes people to get stuck in their life. They want to move forward and look for the clues outside of their influence. Even though we often get clues given to us by people or events they are usually the mirror of what is happening inside of us. Fear of ourselves. Fear of what how we are going to react. We are afraid of one person we should love the most is ourselves.

I have been in many situations in life where I was not just scared but I feared for my life. I had a gun stuck right in my face by a drug addict. I have been in the tornados and even got struck by lightening driving in a car with my husband. Yes.. these events would make anyone fear for their life but also these events are not controlled by us. They happen and how we react to it matters. When it comes to personal fears we can find the way out. We have a key to unlock that true feeling of peace and harmony and look in the mirror and say. Fear is their security blanket. Sometimes it can give that cuddly feeling and we do not want to move forward because we feel warm and fuzzy under the blanket of fear. Fear tricks our mind making us think that we should be where we are now. We should hold to that security blanket and never let it go. Fear keeps us from discovering the purpose we each have. A friend on Facebook Cathy told me today we were all on earth for reason. I do agree with her 100% but only one thing… If we have fear in life, we will never know our true purpose and our mission. We will be living somebody’s else dream, somebody else idea of life. As my good friend Walker said, “We are all actors on the stage of life and we should create the life we desire and truly want to have”

Fear is a negative thing. Fear can turn people into manupulative, controling and unloving people. People do not become that way. They allow the doubts enter their heart and plant a seed in their heart and nourish it with more doubts and eventually it becomes FEAR. What should we do to get rid of our worst enemy?

1. Accept who you are today.
It could be your looks, the way you talk, the way you say things, the way you think, dress…It DOES NOT MATTER.
2. Turn lemons into lemonade.
Take one piece of negative thinking about yourself or what you fear the most in yourself and ask if it is truly that negative. Look at other side of the coin. Positive side. What can you learn from that fear and shift your focus from negative energy to something more constructive.
3. Stop planning your fears.
Sometimes we plan our fears in advance like trying to save money in the bank just in case the world collapses.
We must really stop saying what we plan to do in order to get rid of fears and just do it.
Fear is a temporary reaction that can be changed into bravery when we are forced to do it. What does it mean to you? Well, stop dwelling about your fears and start thinking how brave you truly are.
I love this quote “You must do the things you think you cannot do” by Eleanore Roosevelt
4. Learn to love yourself first.
Fear has no love in it. People who feel unworthy have major fears in life that are showing up in their choices about the career, relationships and business choices. Fear causes people to become controling, manupulative and too demanding.
5. Don’t be attached to outcome.
We often get attached to a certain idea, a certain event, a certail result. We get so attached that we can miss a lot of things that in front of us.. Let go of outcome and go in the flow. It does not mean that you should not set desire and intention in motion. Nobody says that. We all have desires and intentions but in order to manifest it we must let go attachment because attachment is that security blanket I talked about and you will see in the video below.

I hope you enjoy this video and it will help you to get thru a day or a week in your life. Learn how to deal with it instead of avoiding fear. The best way to face fear is to look straight in its eyes, your heart!

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Tatyana Y. Gann

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