Decisions, Decisions.

By Tatyana Gann

“Mommy, are you still going to be a woman?” my 6 year old son curiously asked, just after having my long, beautiful hair drastically chopped off to a new, short and edgy look! Most of the time, I’m used to my little boy asking all kinds of questions… however, I didn’t quite expect this question! Looking at his little expression, I knew he was not worried… he wanted to make sure that I was okay!

It was the power of a major decision and something inside of me that screamed, “Cut your hair girl, you know you can do it!”  As I watched the locks of my hair slowly falling to the beauty shop floor, something immediately sparked in my heart… an “AHA” moment…a total shift. I knew that the decision to cut my hair was more than just about my hair… It was the symbol of my confidence and trust in my own-self that I was desperately seeking… that I could actually do anything if I made the decision to do it!  I wanted to feel powerful, strong, yet feminine. I did not want to lose my feminine side and I was honestly concerned about the question my little son had asked.  As women, we want to make sure that our identity is clear and that we have the image of being a woman, a wife, and a mom.

I wanted to prove that women could be smart, courageous, ambitious and beautiful. I have witnessed the ways some men view and treat professional women, classifying them into a stereotype! Beautiful women cannot be smart enough to make decisions or run a business… or, business women are cold-hearted B**ches with balls of steel! But for businessmen?… it’s a completely different world!

After thinking on these things… Did I feel angry or have a burning desire to feel powerful? Maybe it was both! Do women want power because they are angry at something or someone in their life and they want to regain their power by being angry? Or is it a mind game to become more powerful and see who wins? It starts with the decision to choose anger or power. In my opinion, none of that makes sense, but I observed it and saw it clearly.  Women in leadership roles are humble and know who they are. They do not get angry and do not need to play power-games!

A year has passed since that day, when I cut my long, beautiful hair. It was a gift to myself, for my birthday, to show the world (and myself) that hair is just… hair. The true meaning was about me unleashing my own power and shining my light!

The strength was not in my hair, but in my heart, my soul and my mind – my entire spiritual being! The solutions to all my questions and challenges were within me. All I needed to do is make a decision. When was the last time you made a decision and celebrated that you actually decided to decide?!? How many of us have made a decision to NEVER make a decision? Sounds crazy, doesn’t it?… but it happens without even realizing it!

How long can we women allow the external noise to interfere with our OWN inner desires, passion and purpose?  We allow distractions to get in the way, thinking we are not good enough to make a decision! Trusting ourselves has become a lazy task. Instead, we rely on life coaches, advisors, therapists and every kind of a therapist that has EVER existed! We wake up asking for advice, going through the day texting a friend, coach, or life adviser if we should make certain decisions and what those decisions should be. Honestly, who cares?!?… only YOU! It is your honor and privilege to make decisions. By making your own decisions, you are honoring your Creator!  Honoring yourself is the # 1 step in the decision making process. How do I know? Because I was there, trapped in a pit of darkness, deciding not to decide, believing that my decisions would bring more darkness. However, after I embraced my decisions, they brought light instead of darkness… but only when I mustered up the courage to make a change! I know that at first, it seems easy to rely on others to tell us what decision is best, because ultimately, we think that we don’t have to claim responsibility for those decisions since we relied on someone else to “decide” them for us. But in the end, what matters most is allowing your own inner voice to guide you to make the RIGHT decision, YOUR DECISION, and it’s up to you to ask your heart, your creator, and receive!

Life is fun when we make our own decisions, even if they seem insignificant or messed up! Guess what?… they are ours and no one can take them away! Even when we mess up, we can clean it up… because it’s our own mess. No one else is to blame! It’s taking responsibility. Move forward with your chin up! Decisions are YOUR privilege!

Are you ready to make a major decision in life, but afraid to make the commitment? The only thing you have to do is to realize that your fear is a tiny river flowing through you… and that it is not YOU.  You must trust the flow and know that when your decisions are driven by love, with no hidden agenda, those are the decisions to follow! That’s what matters. Period. Make decisions that are yours. Time to shine!

 

Look forward to working with you and serving you!

Sincerely

Tatyana Gann

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Have a great day!

 

Copyright 2012  Tatyana Gann